Psychology

Tim Clinton  Dr Gary Sibcys self-help book entitled Why You DO the Things You Do A Secret to Healthy Relationships provides a great deal f learning when it comes to strengthening relationships with people through understanding and spirituality. It includes powerful insights about many aspects of relationships that people involved fail to pay attention to. The book shows that there are other people experiencing the same relationship issues over and over again. The lessons included in the work centers on God in a way which is not religious. It explains how attachment disorders happen and are translated into adulthood baggage. This self help book is great in learning about several different issues. It teaches how adults can better improve and better understand their childhoodfamily dynamics and remind parents not to repeat their mistakes from the past. It offers insights about the changing aspects within the family founded on scientific studies and their work with patients. They have effectively categorized relationships into four areas. The principle is that our relationship styles are based on the relationships we have with our families.

Drs. Tim Clinton and Gary Sibcy believe that, for each of us, our present relationships are influenced by our first attachments or bonds with people in early childhood. Consequently, understanding your pattern of relating to others what the authors call your attachment style is the cornerstone for building satisfying relationships with the people you love.

The authors also offer a section on building healthy relationships with our children and tools to change your future. One of the authors goals is to help build a stronger relationship with God of a relationship style has hindered that in the past. The Christian content is fairly small and a bit understated.  It brings spirituality alive, showing how God is the ultimate attachment figure. Its important to note that even though Christian spirituality is a central theme in this book, its coverage of attachment and its analysis of how we learn to love, stands alone. You can get a wealth of powerful information from this book even if you arent religious. The book covers the different styles of attachment and how they affect the way you love others. These styles begin in early childhood and influence us throughout life. The authors highlight a crucial point How we handle our feelings mirrors how we handle our relationships. If you keep your feelings at a distance, you probably do the same with close relationships. If your feelings are chaotic, most likely, your relationships are too.

Questions for the Authors
Many users testify that the internet is very helpful in achieving a much interactive communication with other people. On the other hand, some believe that they are merely electronic tools which have come to disillusion society into believing that they are having real communication when in fact, they are merely virtually speaking or virtually interacting with each other. However, since it is clear that internet has positive and negative effects to the communication of people, the utilization of this technology still brings more benefits to people when it comes to communication. Clearly, the internet would be around for more decades to come, and advising people to refrain from using it would be a mindless thing to do. It has eased a great deal of human labor with regard to research, instant communication, and updated news. It has crossed the boundaries that other communication mediums such as telephone, radio, and television have limits to. The most important purpose of the internet is its capability to do things in a click of a mouseto save precious time and not to acquire more time from the user. However, there are still risks which are associated with this kind of instant communication. Moreover, engaging and depending excessively on these types of communication can lessen a persons value for communication. Personal interaction and face-to-face communication is still the best way to socialize with people and make new friends. Virtual communication cannot suffice the rewards that personal communication provides.  With this modern premise, how do you think relationships and level of attachments nowadays are affected.

Also how can this book relate with gay marriages and relationships nowadays There is already a clear argument with regard to the morality of same-sex marriage. The definition of marriage in the Scriptures is somewhat sacred and holy as two people exchange vows of love and companionship. Same-sex marriage or gay marriage has always been on the list of the most controversial issues in our society today. The idea that a couple of the same sex legally married and officially accepted as husband and wife is already quite a controversy.  If it is based on Christian contexts, how can the book work with the homosexual community